Saturday, July 12, 2008

KOT Resource Guide reviewed in Bay Windows

Dana Rudolph reviews the KOT Guide along with The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill
and Rachel Pepper in the latest issue of Bay Windows, recommending them each for family members of transgender people.

Here's what she said about the guide:

The Kids of Trans Resource Guide, by Monica Canfield-Lenfest of the COLAGE (Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere) Kids of Trans program (and a KOT herself), likewise starts with basic terminology and a discussion of gender. It then provides succinct advice on matters such as what to expect when a parent transitions, what to call them, how and when to come out about being a KOT, and how to deal with shifts in family structure. It also includes a section about dealing with transphobia, but follows it with an upbeat one on "Benefits of Being a KOT." An additional but helpful piece has "Transition Tips for Parents" to make the process easier for- everyone in the family. Like Brill and Pepper’s book, the Guide explores the many facets of each issue, includes quotes from those who have been through them before, and avoids one-size-fits-all answers.

Most importantly, the Guide discusses how to find support and community, and reassures its readers that they are not alone. It includes an extensive resource list of books, movies, and support groups, online and off.

The typography and grammar could use editing in a few places, but the work is by and large an enjoyable and readable resource. It should be of enormous value to those with transgender parents. Download a free copy and view other COLAGE resources for KOTs at: www.colage.org/programs/trans/.

I'm glad to get the coverage and the call for further editing is humbling. The word is getting out about this resource, which means more KOTs will find it. It's appropriate that Boston's LGBT newspaper covered the guide while I'm in the northeast.